Category Archives: Health

Here is a category dedicated in keeping FreshMilk readers alive and kickin’. We’re not here to throw jargons and recommend pills though. There are doctors for that. What we’re dishing out are nifty hints and cool ideas that deny the norm and reject the obvious. “Can boredom actually kill?” “What are the most ideal exercises for lazy people?” Hopefully, as we talk about human wellness, we make you laugh along the way. After all, it is the best medicine.

True Or False: Alcohol Makes Us Productive/Creative

 Ever been drunk or tipsy from an alcoholic drink before? You probably realized that it wasn’t a good idea. Your proper brain functions become impaired and your body is rendered really sluggish. It seems as if time is moving really slow for you. In other extremes, you pass out from extreme intoxication, or vomit. If so, do alcoholic beverages contribute to us be more creative and productive human beings? Let’s take a look.

Alcohol contains ethanol, a substance that contributes several negative effects to the brain and body. In terms of brain functions, ethanol severely affects the brains neurotransmitters, where signals travel from brain to body and back, according to an article in the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism. This in turn impairs thought process, takes away our inhibitions, and mood control.

Once the brain is affected, the body follows suit. Normal functions are also impeded because of one’s inebriation. Sight is blurred, speech is unintelligible, and movement very lethargic.

Alcohol...

If you’ve experienced being or have seen people under the influence of alcohol, you can sense that there is a huge disconnection between brain and body. A totally different side of a person can emerge because of the effects of intoxication: lowered inhibitions, and affected brain processes.

Alcohol.

This is why drunks tend to say or do things that are totally out of character. A quiet person may suddenly become talkative and say very incoherent phrases. A talkative person may become quiet and suddenly fall asleep or pass out due to the amount of alcohol in their system. Others start fights. Some may end up puking their guts out (a bodily defense for flushing the alcohol out of the system). The list goes on and on, but the harmful effects of alcohol are undeniable.

What then does this have to do with being productive and creative? Absolutely nothing. The negative effects of alcohol prove just that. Having a meaningful work experience means feeding your mind with things that encourage inspiration and innovation, not a substance that dulls your senses.

Love & alcohol... Good times being bad!

As mentioned above, if the brain doesn’t function properly, the body won’t, too. Alcoholic beverages weren’t meant as an energy or work drink anyways, but for leisure. Ever see someone who drank wine or beer to be more focused? No. Maybe a glass of vodka, but that’s when the day has died down and one needed to unwind.

UK-based writer Joanna Penn mentions in one of her blog articles that William Faulkner separated his writing and drinking. Having an alcoholic beverage was only done to de-stress. Faulkner stated that drinking did not contribute positively to the creative process.

Prohibition of alcohol or "Dry Law".

Penn kindly reminds readers,

You can have a few drinks without it affecting your writing or your life. It can be a pleasure, if not abused.”

The assumption that alcohol ushers creativity is false. If writing, a highly imaginative and innovative type of work, is not supported by a lifestyle of consuming alcoholic beverages, then this follows suite with all other kinds of vocations. Think before you drink. It could very well save your career.

True or False: Too Much Love Can Kill You

too much love can kill you

“ Yeah, too much love will kill you
Just as sure as none at all
It’ll drain the power that’s in you
Make you plead and scream and crawl
And the pain will make you crazy
You’re the victim of your crime
Too much love will kill you
Every time ”

That’s the chorus of Queen’s “Too Much Love Will Kill You”, penned by guitarist Brian May and sung by Freddie Mercury (d. 1991). Seems a bit exaggerated, you think. They probably meant either: 1) Love could drive you crazy, especially when you’re torn between two people you want to be with, 2) Being too in love could kill you (via suicide), or 3) both.

 But just as the apt Queen ditty is, the answer to the question above is true. Too much love can kill you. Yup, we are seriously going to answer this question. :)

Obsessive love

The prognosis of the unhealthy mania towards your partner in a relationship is documented in the “Obsessive Love Wheel”. It is composed of four parts:

obsessive love wheel

The attraction stage is when you become infatuated to someone you see. It may start physically or emotionally, or what have you. From here, either a real or “perceived” relationship is developed. Either one of the partners can be classified as RD, or relationally dependent.

Love or Lust?

The next stage after attraction is anxiety. When you’re in the relationship, your insecurities as a person suddenly kick in. You become prone to its effects such as fear, illogical reasoning, anger, and neediness. This is a sign of you becoming uneasy about the nature of the relationship.

anxiety/needy

Obsession comes after. With the fear of losing a loved one, either partner resorts to extreme control tactics in an attempt to keep it “together”. Some of these could include stalking, excessive communication over the phone, text, e-mail, chat, or other means, guilt trips, and tunnel vision (an unhealthy, constant focus on one’s partner).

You are the piece of me I wish I didn't need

Once the obsession reaches a tipping point, the relationship ends and the destructive tendencies set in.

destructive

Because of one’s neurotic attachment post-break up, he/she may result to either of the following damaging actions to either numb the emotional pain or attempt to cancel it altogether:

vices

Can’t breathe…

A huge factor in this emotionally damaging case is the act of smothering. By definition, smothering means ‘to suffocate; suppress”. Either partner demands too much of the other’s time or presence to satisfy one’s emotional needs.

can't breathe

can’t breathe… literally! hahahaha!!

The problem with smothering is that the focus is in your wants and needs, never the partner’s. This is how love can be considered overkill. Hence the, “I need space/room to breathe/think we should see other people,” line during break ups. Too much is required that the other partner can’t keep up with the high demand, causing one to leave the relationship in order to be free.

let go

If either one is relationally dependent based on our illustration above, then he/she is prone to the effects of the obsessive love wheel, resulting in damaging actions that could lead to one’s demise.

Conclusion

It’s true. Too much love can kill. In order to avoid that, a person must first evaluate the reason/s he/she is entering into a relationship. Is it because you love your partner unconditionally to put their hopes and dreams above yours, or do you need to be in control all the time, setting off a course of destructive actions that will damage you in the long run?

Think long and hard before getting a boyfriend/girlfriend. Either two scenarios can happen: You could end up with the love of your life, or it could mean an early death. Yours.

P.S. Here’s your takeaway lesson:

Easier said than done, but I'll give it a try...

Did You Know That Hugging Makes Us Healthier?

You heard right. It does make you healthier. We’re not fooling you with that title. It’s true. Though it won’t make you lose 100 lbs., (okay, this will totally make sense in a bit, I promise), there are several ways that hugging improves our overall personal vigor. It starts with the peptide oxytocin.

Oxytocin is a hormone in the pituitary gland. When released into the body, it decreases stress, fear, anxiety, lowers your blood pressure, and increases your well-being and your memory performance. Oxytocin is present during childbirth and breastfeeding to increase the bonding experience shared between mother and child. It is also known for positively augmenting social behavior and closeness between parents, children, and couples. This unique peptide can be considered the “love hormone”.

oxytocin

Oxytocin – the LOVE doctor, I mean hormone :)

There’s a unique feature about hugs and oxytocin: it only works when you hug people you trust. Studies say that as hugging people you love benefits you, the inverse also applies: hugging a total stranger or someone you don’t trust increases stress levels.

Hugs can also adversely affect ones personally in a good way. It softens one’s personality. Over time, it makes him or her more empathic to the feelings of others in their surroundings. So if you see an angsty person around you, give that person a hug. Just kidding. You might get punched in the face.

Hug someone, every day.  It's a proven antidepressant and can say something that words just can't.

They also teach you the nature of relationships. It’s all about give and take. You hug, you’re hugged back, and vice versa. It teaches us that love is reciprocated between two people.

Hugging is also a love language as it illustrates physical touch as a way of communicating love to another. That being said, it’s best to find other huggers in order to create a healthy bond with them.

Hugs - best feeling in the world!

Lastly, when you relish a hug with someone, it momentarily disconnects us from our brains and connects us to our hearts. That’s why people who hug a lot are attuned to their emotions and feelings. So girls, if you want your man to talk more (yes, guys don’t share stuff voluntarily but that can be changed ;)), hug him often. Depending on your approach, he’ll be sharing more stuff with you, or break up with you. We hope it’s the former.

There’s a lot of talk on the number of hugs someone should receive. Is it 4, 8, 12 a day? We won’t give you a definite number. But all we’ll say is get a lot of hugs as often as you can for a happier, healthier you!